Borrowed clothes
You spend the evening in each other’s clothes, and you stay in them.
Why it works
Clothes govern posture, voice and how much room you take up, and you only notice once you are wearing somebody else's. A whole hour before anything else happens is not waiting time. It is how long it takes before the body stops acting and actually settles into it.
How to do it
- 01
Each take one garment from the other’s side of the wardrobe and lay it on the bed. Not as a joke, pick something you would like to see the other in.
- 02
Put it on and stay in it for at least an hour before anything else happens. Cook, drink a cup of tea, look at each other.
- 03
Each name one thing that was different: in the body, in the voice, or in the way the other looked at you.
What usually goes wrong
A laugh in the wrong place lands hard here, because the other person is standing in something unfamiliar. Choose the clothes as something you want to look at, not as a joke. Whoever is wearing it decides when it comes off, and nobody asks for a reason.
Laughing at the wrong moment lands hard here, because you are standing in something you are not used to. Whoever is wearing it decides when it comes off, and whether any photographs exist at all.
More in the same direction
- Medium · One evening
The swap
You trade who does what, the whole way through.
- Beginner · Two hours
The long evening
An evening with nowhere to get to, bed included.
- Beginner · One week
Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.