Recipe of the week

Every recipe

• Beginner · Two hours

  The long evening

  An evening with nowhere to get to — bed included.

• Beginner · Twenty minutes

  Say it out loud

  Three sentences, said aloud, that otherwise never get said.

• Beginner · One week

  Who starts

  A week where it is settled who brings it up — and it is not whoever usually does.

• Beginner · One evening

  Another room

  The same thing somewhere else — and it is rarely only the place that changes.

• Medium · One hour

  The long tease

  Everything that usually goes quickly, done at half the speed.

• Medium · Half an hour

  The agreement first

  The half hour that makes the rest possible.

• Beginner · One hour

  The question hour

  An evening where you only talk. Nothing has to follow.

• Medium · One evening

  The swap

  You trade who does what — the whole way through.

• Medium · An evening, and a week after it

  The third name

  You talk about a third person. Nothing happens.

• Advanced · Two hours, and fifteen minutes a month

  Written down

  Your agreements on paper, so they cannot be misremembered.

• BDSM · An hour and a half, thirty minutes of which is talking

  The first scene

  A short scene with everything around it in place.

• Kinky · One evening

  One exact thing

  You take one particular thing and do it properly, instead of five things halfway.

• Hardcore · Two evenings, a week apart

  What it costs

  Not a scene. The way to find out what a thing takes before you do it.

• Beginner · Thirty minutes

  Show me with your hand

  You stop guessing. One of you shows, the other watches.

• Beginner · One working day

  Three messages before six

  The evening starts at eleven in the morning.

• Beginner · Ten minutes

  Eyes open

  Ten minutes of looking at each other instead of closing your eyes.

• Beginner · One morning

  The wrong hour

  The same thing, at an hour when you would otherwise be doing something else.

• Beginner · Twenty minutes, and a week

  The good no

  You settle what a no sounds like, so that saying one costs nothing.

• Medium · Forty minutes

  Watched

  One of you touches yourself. The other may look, and not touch.

• Medium · One hour

  Who holds the toy

  The toy changes owner for an evening — one of you decides where and for how long.

• Medium · One evening

  Said while it happens

  One of you says out loud what is happening, and what happens next.

• Medium · An evening out, and the rest at home

  Strangers at a bar

  You meet as two people who do not know each other, and you keep it up all the way home.

• Advanced · One hour

  Someone of your own sex

  One fantasy said out loud, without it having to mean anything about the two of you.

• Advanced · One evening

  Borrowed clothes

  You spend the evening in each other’s clothes, and you stay in them.

• Advanced · Two evenings and three months

  The trial period

  An open arrangement with an end date — not a door simply left ajar.

• Advanced · Two evenings, a week apart

  The joy and the jealousy

  You find out where the jealousy sits while nothing has happened yet.

• Advanced · One evening, and a conversation the day before

  Out among others

  You go to one place where other people are part of it, and you touch nobody the first time.

• BDSM · One hour, twenty minutes of which is rope

  One tie

  One tie, learned properly, instead of five you saw in a photograph.

• BDSM · Forty minutes

  The warm-up

  Blows that start far too light and end up in the right place — in that order.

• BDSM · One weekend

  Three rules and a name

  A role with a clock time at each end and exactly three rules in between.

• BDSM · Three quarters of an hour

  Wax and ice

  Two temperatures on the same skin, and one of you never knows which is coming.

• BDSM · Twenty minutes now, and fifteen after every scene

  The day after

  An aftercare written down once, so nobody has to invent it afterwards.

• Kinky · An evening, and ten minutes first

  The camera, with rules

  You record something, and you settle what happens to the file before you make it.

• Kinky · An evening, starting away from the house

  Two strangers

  You meet as two people who have never seen each other before, and neither of you breaks it.

• Kinky · A week to find it, one evening to wear it

  One good garment

  One thing bought on purpose for one person, instead of a drawer full of things nobody chose.

• Kinky · Half an hour

  From the chair

  One of you does what people do on their own, and the other only watches.

• Kinky · Twenty minutes, then one evening

  The exact words

  You find out which words work and which ones kill it, before anybody says them in the dark.

• Hardcore · Three days, most of them entirely ordinary

  The hours after

  Not a scene. The part that comes afterwards, arranged before it begins.

• Hardcore · An hour, with no scene attached

  The conversation about the throat

  Not a how-to. A way of talking about the one item on the list that kills people.

• Hardcore · Twenty minutes, before anything that holds

  The way out

  Before you tie anything, you find out how fast you can get it off again.

• Hardcore · Three hours, with the clock in the room

  The long scene

  One scene long enough that its middle is the point, built so that it can be stopped.

• Hardcore · Two weeks of talking, and one evening at the end of it

  More than two

  The part of a third person that happens before anybody is invited.