The way out
Before you tie anything, you find out how fast you can get it off again.
How to do it
- 01
Buy proper shears — the blunt-nosed kind an ambulance carries — and put them where the hand that will need them can reach them. Not in a drawer at the other end of the room.
- 02
Practise once with nobody tied: make the knot, and cut it. Time it. If getting somebody free takes more than a few seconds, it is the plan that is wrong, not the person.
- 03
Agree the checks out loud: hands and feet looked at every few minutes; cold, white or numb means it comes off now; and whoever is tied is never left alone in the room, not even to answer the door.
Nerve damage from a wrist tie can arrive with no pain at all. Numbness, or a hand that will not grip, is the warning, and it does not wait for the scene to end. Rope round a neck, and anything that takes weight, are a different subject and need different teachers.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
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