The way out
Before you tie anything, you find out how fast you can get it off again.
Why it works
Anything holding somebody in place has to come off faster than the panic arrives. Blunt nosed scissors within reach are the whole difference between a problem and an accident. Practising once, with nobody tied, takes five minutes and shows whether the knot is any good.
How to do it
- 01
Buy proper shears, the blunt-nosed kind an ambulance carries, and put them where the hand that will need them can reach them. Not in a drawer at the other end of the room.
- 02
Practise once with nobody tied: make the knot, and cut it. Time it. If getting somebody free takes more than a few seconds, it is the plan that is wrong, not the person.
- 03
Agree the checks out loud: hands and feet looked at every few minutes; cold, white or numb means it comes off now; and whoever is tied is never left alone in the room, not even to answer the door.
What usually goes wrong
The scissors are in a drawer in another room. They belong where the hand that will need them can reach them. Check hands and feet every few minutes. Cold, white or numb means off immediately, and nerve damage can arrive with no pain at all.
Nerve damage from a wrist tie can arrive with no pain at all. Numbness, or a hand that will not grip, is the warning, and it does not wait for the scene to end. Rope round a neck, and anything that takes weight, are a different subject and need different teachers.
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The agreement first
The half hour that makes the rest possible.
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The first scene
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What it costs
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What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
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