What it costs
Not a scene. The way to find out what a thing takes before you do it.
How to do it
- 01
First evening: pick the one thing on your list that goes furthest. Write two lists — what has to go right for it to be good, and what has to go wrong for it to be bad. The second list is the one that matters.
- 02
The week in between: find out what the thing actually requires — from someone who knows, not from each other. A guide, a book, an experienced person. It is the one step that cannot be skipped.
- 03
Second evening: decide. Either a date and a plan, or a no that is not reopened. Both are a result.
Some things on that list do not become safe by being agreed. A no from one of you is enough, and it needs no reason.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.