The first scene
A short scene with everything around it in place.
Why it works
What makes a first scene good is rarely what happens in it. It is that both of you know where the frame ends, and that there is a word that stops everything without discussion. Twenty minutes is enough. A short scene that ends while you both want more makes you want to do it again. A long one that ended by itself does not.
How to do it
- 01
Spend half an hour agreeing three things before anything starts: what may happen, what may not, and which word stops everything without discussion. Write them down. Memory is worse than people think when they are in the middle of it.
- 02
Keep the scene short, twenty minutes. A scene that ends while both still want it is a better beginning than one that ends because it ran out.
- 03
Stay lying down afterwards. A blanket, water, no phones, and no debriefing before the next day at the earliest.
What usually goes wrong
The most common mistake is writing too much down and then trusting memory anyway. Three points are enough if they are precise. The second is breaking up straight afterwards. Stay lying down, even if neither of you feels the need right then. The dip often comes a day later, and then it helps that the evening ended quietly.
Whoever let go can dip a day later without anything having gone wrong. Agree beforehand who says so.
More in the same direction
- Medium · Half an hour
The agreement first
The half hour that makes the rest possible.
- Medium · One hour
The blindfold hour
One of you sees nothing for an hour and does not have to guess what is coming.
- BDSM · One hour, twenty minutes of which is rope
One tie
One tie, learned properly, instead of five you saw in a photograph.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.