The joy and the jealousy
You find out where the jealousy sits while nothing has happened yet.
How to do it
- 01
First evening: one of you describes out loud a sequence in which the other is with someone else — who it is, where it happens, what gets said afterwards. The one listening says as it goes where in the body it registers, and whether it is hot or cold.
- 02
Swap roles the same evening. Hearing it and saying it are not the same thing, and you need both before you know anything.
- 03
Second evening, a week later: each name one thing that stayed with you, and one thing that turned out to weigh nothing. Only then is it worth talking about whether anything should happen.
Jealousy often arrives two days late, and it lands just as readily on whoever was keenest on the Friday. Nobody contacts anybody between the two evenings, and waking the other one is allowed if it gets to be too much.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.