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Beginner · Ten minutes

Eyes open

Ten minutes of looking at each other instead of closing your eyes.

How to do it

  • 01

    Sit facing each other with your clothes on and hold the look for two minutes without speaking. After thirty seconds it gets uncomfortable. Stay where you are.

  • 02

    Then say one sentence each about what you have just seen. Not about yourself — about the other one.

  • 03

    Take it to bed the same evening: keep the eye contact at least at the start.

Look after each other

A look becomes too much long before touch does. Agree that either of you may glance away without being asked why.

Two adults stand close together in a bedroom, smiling at each other.

What you both want.

Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.

Take the questionnaire

For adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.