Say it out loud
Three sentences, said aloud, that otherwise never get said.
Why it works
The sentences are half finished on purpose. An open answer is harder to wave away than a yes or no question, and the one listening has no time to build a defence. Twenty minutes with those three sentences usually gives you more than a whole evening of asking how things are going.
How to do it
- 01
Take turns finishing: “What I like most about your body is …”
- 02
Then: “Something I would like to try with you is …”
- 03
Last: “What I need afterwards is …”
What usually goes wrong
The common mistake is answering the answer. One of you says something small, the other explains, and nothing more gets said. Say thank you and move to the next sentence. Do not pick an evening when somebody is tired or short tempered either. This does not rescue a bad day.
No comments in between. You listen and you say thank you, the discussion can wait until tomorrow.
More in the same direction
- Beginner · Two hours
The long evening
An evening with nowhere to get to, bed included.
- Beginner · One week
Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
- Beginner · One hour
The question hour
An evening where you only talk. Nothing has to follow.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.