The warm-up
Blows that start far too light and end up in the right place, in that order.
Why it works
What makes impact bearable is not the force but the order. Ten minutes with a flat hand, far too light, makes the skin warm and full of blood, and then what comes afterwards feels completely different. Skip the warm up and the same strokes simply hurt.
How to do it
- 01
Agree two things first: where on the body it may land, the backside and the back of the thighs, nowhere else, and how much may still show tomorrow, if either of you is going swimming or to a doctor.
- 02
Start with an open hand and far too lightly, for ten minutes. The skin should be warm and red before anything harder is on the table.
- 03
Bring in one implement, not three. Whoever is receiving says green, yellow or red every fifth stroke, and yellow means less force, not stop.
What usually goes wrong
One more implement, just to see what it does. Do not. One at a time, the whole evening. Stay on the backside and the backs of the thighs. Kidneys, spine, tailbone and joints take none of this, and marks often sit longer than you agreed.
Kidneys, spine, tailbone and joints do not take being struck, stay on the fleshy parts. Marks can outlast the evening they were agreed on, so that gets talked through before the first stroke falls.
What the recipe asks for is gone through type by type in the sex toy guide.
More in the same direction
- Medium · One hour
The long tease
Everything that usually goes quickly, done at half the speed.
- Medium · Half an hour
The agreement first
The half hour that makes the rest possible.
- BDSM · An hour and a half, thirty minutes of which is talking
The first scene
A short scene with everything around it in place.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
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