The warm-up
Blows that start far too light and end up in the right place — in that order.
How to do it
- 01
Agree two things first: where on the body it may land — the backside and the back of the thighs, nowhere else — and how much may still show tomorrow, if either of you is going swimming or to a doctor.
- 02
Start with an open hand and far too lightly, for ten minutes. The skin should be warm and red before anything harder is on the table.
- 03
Bring in one implement, not three. Whoever is receiving says green, yellow or red every fifth stroke, and yellow means less force, not stop.
Kidneys, spine, tailbone and joints do not take being struck — stay on the fleshy parts. Marks can outlast the evening they were agreed on, so that gets talked through before the first stroke falls.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.