The long tease
Everything that usually goes quickly, done at half the speed.
Why it works
Speed is a habit, not a choice. When one of you sets the pace, the other does not have to hold themselves back, and it is that combination that makes it genuinely slow. The interruptions that feel unnecessary in the moment are exactly what makes an hour feel like more than an hour.
How to do it
- 01
Agree who sets the pace tonight. Only one of you.
- 02
Whoever sets it stops every time things start to speed up. At least three times.
- 03
You may ask for more once. Asking twice does not count.
What usually goes wrong
The one in charge usually stops after ten minutes because it feels kinder. It is not. The other mistake is giving the one who asks for more exactly that, immediately. Then it is no longer a build up, just the usual evening with a pause in the middle.
Agree a word that stops everything at once and means nothing else.
What has actually been measured about it is sourced in the encyclopedia of sex facts.
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The long evening
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Say it out loud
Three sentences, said aloud, that otherwise never get said.
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Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.