Three messages before six
The evening starts at eleven in the morning.
Why it works
Evenings that start at ten are short. Three messages during the day move the start to the morning, and most of the effect sits in the hours in between, where nobody replies. The limit of three is not a formality. It is what leaves something still unsaid when you meet.
How to do it
- 01
Agree tonight that tomorrow you will each send three messages before six. No more than three.
- 02
The first is about something you have done together. The second is about something you want. The third is a time.
- 03
Keep the replies short. It is not a conversation, and the point is that something is still owed when you get home.
What usually goes wrong
It turns into a conversation, and then it is over. Reply briefly or not at all. Check the thread before you press send, and agree in advance what gets deleted afterwards. A phone other people look at is the wrong place for this.
Write from a phone nobody else looks at, and check you are in the right thread before you send. Agree too what gets deleted afterwards.
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The long evening
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Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
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Show me with your hand
You stop guessing. One of you shows, the other watches.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.