Show me with your hand
You stop guessing. One of you shows, the other watches.
Why it works
Most couples have never seen each other do it alone, so they spend years guessing about pressure, pace and place. Half an hour removes the guessing. What gets said afterwards is usually something neither of you would have thought to ask about.
How to do it
- 01
One of you touches yourself the way you would with nobody else in the room. The other watches and does not help.
- 02
Swap. This time whoever is watching rests a hand on top of the other’s and follows, without taking over.
- 03
Afterwards each name one thing you did not know.
What usually goes wrong
The one watching wants to help. Do not. The other thing that happens is that the one showing performs a tidier version than the usual one, and then you learned nothing. Turn off the ceiling light if that makes it easier, and let the one showing stop without explaining why.
Showing is easier than being watched. Turn the overhead light off, and agree that whoever is showing can stop without explaining why.
What has been measured about doing it alone, and about using something for it, is collected at Min Fleshlight.
More in the same direction
- Beginner · Two hours
The long evening
An evening with nowhere to get to, bed included.
- Beginner · One week
Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
- Beginner · One working day
Three messages before six
The evening starts at eleven in the morning.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.