Three rules and a name
A role with a clock time at each end and exactly three rules in between.
Why it works
A role with no frame becomes either nothing or everything. Three rules can be remembered in the middle of it, and a time at each end makes it clear when you are yourselves again. Saying the form of address out loud once with your clothes on removes most of the awkwardness.
How to do it
- 01
Choose the form of address together, a name or a title you use only inside the frame, and say it out loud once while you still have your clothes on and can laugh at it. It is easier now than later.
- 02
Write down exactly three rules. Three is enough, and more cannot be remembered. Write down as well what the frame does not cover: work, children, illness, guests, and everything outside the house.
- 03
Say out loud when it starts and when it ends, with clock times. When it ends, that gets said using your ordinary names and with the light on.
What usually goes wrong
The frame gets no ending, and the role hangs on into Monday without anybody agreeing to it. Say the ending out loud, with a time and with your ordinary names. Write down what the frame does not cover as well: work, children, illness, guests.
The mistake that does damage here is a frame with no end, a role left hanging into Monday that nobody agreed to. The clock time is not decoration, and either of you can end the weekend with one word without explaining why.
What has actually been measured about it is sourced in the encyclopedia of sex facts.
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Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.