The good no
You settle what a no sounds like, so that saying one costs nothing.
How to do it
- 01
Agree on two sentences: one that means not tonight, and one that means not right now, but stay. Use your own words, not these.
- 02
Agree what the one who gets the no says back. One word is enough, and it has to be the same word every time.
- 03
Use them in the coming week, including when the answer is yes — otherwise the sentence only ever gets said on the bad evenings.
Whoever was turned down does not get to explain their way out of it afterwards. If there is something larger to discuss, take it at a moment when neither of you has just been told no.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.