Watched
One of you touches yourself. The other may look, and not touch.
Why it works
Being seen and seeing are two different things, and most couples only try one of them. The chair at the other end of the room is the distance that makes it possible: the one watching cannot help, and the one being watched does not have to negotiate along the way.
How to do it
- 01
Put a chair at the far end of the room. Whoever is watching sits there and stays there.
- 02
Whoever is being watched goes all the way through it, without checking part way whether this is all right. It was agreed beforehand, which is why nobody has to ask.
- 03
Swap on a different evening, not the same one. They are two separate things and should not compete.
What usually goes wrong
The comment. A well meant compliment in the middle lands as a judgement and ends the whole thing. Stay quiet unless you are asked for something. Do not swap the same evening either. Then it becomes a contest about who was braver, and that is not what you set out to find out.
The one watching says nothing unless asked to. A well-meant “that looks good” at the wrong moment makes the rest impossible.
More in the same direction
- Medium · An evening out, and the rest at home
Strangers at a bar
You meet as two people who do not know each other, and you keep it up all the way home.
- Beginner · Two hours
The long evening
An evening with nowhere to get to, bed included.
- Beginner · Twenty minutes
Say it out loud
Three sentences, said aloud, that otherwise never get said.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.