From the chair
One of you does what people do on their own, and the other only watches.
Why it works
Doing what you otherwise do alone, with the light on and somebody else in the room, is harder than it sounds, and that is the whole exercise. The chair gives the one watching a particular place to be, and a particular place makes it easier not to join in.
How to do it
- 01
Put a chair where it can be seen from the bed, and agree that whoever sits in it does not get up, does not join in and does not give instructions.
- 02
Whoever is being watched does exactly what they would do alone, with the light on. That is the whole difficulty and the whole point.
- 03
Swap the week after, so that neither of you is always the one being looked at.
What usually goes wrong
Nervous laughter from the chair lands as a judgement. Agree about it in advance. Do not swap the same evening either, but the week after, so neither of you is always the one being watched. They are two completely different places to be.
Being looked at is far harder than looking. If the person in the chair laughs from nerves it lands as a verdict, so agree in advance that nothing is said until it is over.
What has been measured about doing it alone, and about using something for it, is collected at Min Fleshlight.
More in the same direction
- Medium · One evening
Said while it happens
One of you says out loud what is happening, and what happens next.
- Beginner · Twenty minutes
Say it out loud
Three sentences, said aloud, that otherwise never get said.
- Medium · One hour
The long tease
Everything that usually goes quickly, done at half the speed.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
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