One good garment
One thing bought on purpose for one person, instead of a drawer full of things nobody chose.
Why it works
A drawer of things nobody chose means nothing. One garment, bought on purpose for a particular person, means something every time it comes out. Being exact about material and colour is not fussy. The vagueness is what makes it go wrong.
How to do it
- 01
Whoever it matters to says exactly what it is: the material, the colour, what it covers and what it does not. Vagueness is what makes this sort of thing go wrong.
- 02
Buy it together, or let one buy it while the other stays out of it entirely. Both work. What matters is deciding which of the two beforehand.
- 03
Wear it for a single evening at home, with nothing else new happening. One thing at a time is the whole method.
What usually goes wrong
The evening gets filled up with other new things, and then the garment drowns. One thing at a time. The person it matters to often wants to go further straight away, while the other agreed to one thing. Ask before you add anything.
The one it matters to will want to go further the same evening. The other said yes to one thing. Ask before adding anything, and let a no be the end of the sentence.
More in the same direction
- Kinky · One evening
One exact thing
You take one particular thing and do it properly, instead of five things halfway.
- Medium · Forty minutes
Watched
One of you touches yourself. The other may look, and not touch.
- Medium · An evening out, and the rest at home
Strangers at a bar
You meet as two people who do not know each other, and you keep it up all the way home.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.