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Medium · One hour

Who holds the toy

The toy changes owner for an evening — one of you decides where and for how long.

How to do it

  • 01

    Put the vibrator you already own down between you. One of you picks it up and does not hand it over again all evening.

  • 02

    The other may say warmer, colder, slower — but may not take it. Asking for it costs five minutes in which nothing happens.

  • 03

    Finish by handing it back and naming one thing the other did right.

Look after each other

Agree how fast it goes off: whoever is lying down says stop, and then it is switched off, not turned down. A vibrator becomes unpleasant in a second and pleasant again twenty minutes later.

Two adults stand close together in a bedroom, smiling at each other.

What you both want.

Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.

Take the questionnaire

For adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.