Who holds the toy
The toy changes owner for an evening, one of you decides where and for how long.
Why it works
Something always held by the same person becomes a tool with a fixed function. When it changes owner for an evening, the pace becomes somebody else's decision, and the wait between two things suddenly becomes part of it. That wait is the whole recipe.
How to do it
- 01
Put the vibrator you already own down between you. One of you picks it up and does not hand it over again all evening.
- 02
The other may say warmer, colder, slower, but may not take it. Asking for it costs five minutes in which nothing happens.
- 03
Finish by handing it back and naming one thing the other did right.
What usually goes wrong
Whoever is holding it runs it too long and too hard, because it looks like it is working. Agree in advance that stop means off, not turn it down. A vibrator goes from good to unpleasant in seconds, and it cannot be seen from the outside.
Agree how fast it goes off: whoever is lying down says stop, and then it is switched off, not turned down. A vibrator becomes unpleasant in a second and pleasant again twenty minutes later.
What the recipe asks for is gone through type by type in the sex toy guide.
More in the same direction
- Beginner · Two hours
The long evening
An evening with nowhere to get to, bed included.
- Beginner · One week
Who starts
A week where it is settled who brings it up, and it is not whoever usually does.
- Beginner · One evening
Another room
The same thing somewhere else, and it is rarely only the place that changes.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.