The long scene
One scene long enough that its middle is the point, built so that it can be stopped.
Why it works
A long scene is not a short scene with more time in it. The middle is the point, and it can only be reached if you both know there are pauses built in. The clock that rings every forty minutes is not an interruption of the mood. It is what makes the mood last three hours.
How to do it
- 01
Set a timer that goes off every forty minutes, and everything halts when it does: water, a look at hands and feet, one plain question answered in plain words. Then it starts again, or it does not.
- 02
Decide beforehand what the last forty minutes are not allowed to contain. What is good to turn up in the first hour is bad to turn up in the third, and nobody in the middle of it is the right judge of that.
- 03
Eat afterwards. A long scene costs more sugar and more water than either of you will believe at the time.
What usually goes wrong
You keep going upwards the whole way. What is good to escalate in the first hour is bad to escalate in the third. Agree in advance what the last forty minutes must not contain. Eat afterwards, and expect it to cost more sugar and water than it feels like.
A yes at the start does not stretch by itself to the third hour. Anything that leaves marks has to be decided before it begins: a bruise from Saturday is still on the body at the doctor’s on Tuesday, and it does not know it was agreed to.
More in the same direction
- Medium · One hour
The long tease
Everything that usually goes quickly, done at half the speed.
- Medium · Half an hour
The agreement first
The half hour that makes the rest possible.
- BDSM · An hour and a half, thirty minutes of which is talking
The first scene
A short scene with everything around it in place.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
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