Medium · One evening
The swap
You trade who does what — the whole way through.
How to do it
- 01
Agree on one pattern you always follow: who starts, who lies where, who sets the pace. Pick the one you do without thinking.
- 02
Reverse it for one evening. Whoever usually waits, begins. Whoever usually leads, follows.
- 03
Afterwards each name one thing that was easier than expected, and one thing that was strange.
Look after each other
It is meant to feel clumsy. A pattern that has held for years does not let go in one evening — and it does not need to.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.