More than two
The part of a third person that happens before anybody is invited.
How to do it
- 01
Write separately, without conferring, what each of you may and may not do — with the third person, and with each other while they are there. Compare. Where the two papers disagree is the whole of the work.
- 02
Settle the practical questions in plain words, in advance and not at the door: testing and protection, who says stop on whose behalf, where the third person sleeps, and how the evening ends if one of you has had enough.
- 03
Meet them the first time with clothes on and nothing planned. Somebody who cannot hear a rule over a cup of coffee will not hear it later either.
The third person is not equipment, and can be hurt by this as easily as either of you. Agree that a stop from any one of the three ends it for all three, and that jealousy turning up the next morning is information — not a breach of the agreement.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.