The conversation about the throat
Not a how-to. A way of talking about the one item on the list that kills people.
How to do it
- 01
Say out loud at the start that nothing happens tonight and nothing happens this week. This is a conversation and it stays one. This page, and any page like it, is the wrong place to learn a technique.
- 02
Say what the pull actually consists of: the hands, the weight, the surrender, the look of it. Naming it honestly often shows there is something far less dangerous underneath that you can both have.
- 03
If it is still there afterwards, the next step is not each other. It is people who know — a doctor about your own health, and experienced people about what they actually do — before anything at all.
Pressure on the neck can stop a heart or injure a brain in seconds, with no warning, no visible mark and no reliable way of telling it is happening. Nothing agreed between the two of you changes that, and a safe word is no use to somebody who cannot speak.
What you both want.
Twenty questions, answered separately. You see only what you both said yes to.
Take the questionnaireFor adults over 18 only. Intended for two adults in a consenting relationship.